Mindset Shifts for the ‘Ber Months – Finding Balance as the Year Winds Down

As we step into the “ber months”, September through to December, there is a noticeable shift in energy all around us. The mornings feel cooler, evenings draw in earlier and nature begins its gentle transition towards rest.

For some this time of year feels cosy and grounding.  For others it can bring dips in mood, energy, motivation, overwhelm or even sadness as the shorter days and the thought of another year closing in bring pressure or reflection.

The truth is, it is natural to feel a mix of emotions. The seasons influence not just our environment, but also our mindset and wellbeing.  Add in busy schedules and festive pressure it is easy to fee a little out of balance.

The good news is with a little awareness and some simple practices, we can move through this season feeling more balanced, resilient and well.

How the ‘Ber Months Affect Our Mindset

  • Seasonal changes in light can impact energy levels and mood.  Colder weather may leave us more tired or vulnerable to bugs.

  • Shorter days may reduce motivation, making it harder to keep routines.

  • End-of-year pressure often triggers self-criticism about what we “should” have achieved.

  • Emotional shifts surface as we reflect, sometimes leading to stress or comparison.

Instead of resisting these changes, we can choose to flow with them just as nature does.

Nurturing Your Wellbeing This Season

Here are some gentle ways to care for your mind, body and energy as we move through autumn and into winter:

Seek the light: Make the most of daylight hours; get outside, walk and soak in natural light.

Move mindfully:  Stretch, walk, dance, or practice yoga to shift stagnant energy.

Nourish your body: Enjoy warming, seasonal foods like soups, stews and root vegetables especially reds, orange and yellows like pumpkins, squash, carrots, sweet potatoes and beetroot. Stay hydrated, even if you don’t feel as thirsty.

Make yourself cosy:  Create cosy spaces with candles and blankets and lean into routines that feel supportive. Like reading a book, mindful colouring, having a bath in the afternoon (yes really give yourself permission to do it and see how it feels).

Pause & reflect: Journaling, mindfulness/meditation or EFT tapping can help process emotions and calm the nervous system.

Practice gratitude: Celebrate progress, no matter how small and acknowledge what you have navigated this year.

Set gentle intentions: Instead of pressure filled goals, allow space for reflection and alignment.

Holistic Therapies to Support You

Alongside lifestyle shifts, holistic therapies can give your mind and body an extra layer of support during the colder months:

Reflexology: By working on specific points in the feet, reflexology helps the body rebalance, reduce stress, improve sleep and strengthen the immune system.

Lymphatic Drainage Massage: A gentle, rhythmic massage that stimulates the lymphatic system, helping the body clear toxins, reduce swelling and boost immunity. Perfect if you feel sluggish or run down.

Reiki: A calming energy healing practice that helps release stress, support emotional wellbeing and restore balance. Many people find Reiki especially grounding in the darker months.

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT Tapping): The autumn and winter months can stir up emotions: stress from busy schedules, sadness from shorter days or old grief that feels heavier in quieter seasons. EFT works by calming the nervous system, reducing anxiety, shifting limiting beliefs and reframing our thoughts. Regular tapping can help you feel lighter, calmer and more resilient as you move through the colder months.

Embracing the Invitation

The autumn months are an invitation to pause, reflect and realign with what truly matters. They remind us that slowing down is not a weakness, it is a powerful way to reset and honour our energy to support our health and wellbeing. Just as the trees let go of their leaves, we too can release what no longer serves us and make space for renewal.

Be gentle with yourself. Progress isn’t always about doing more, sometimes it is about creating calm, resting and allowing your inner world to align with the season’s rhythm.

How do the ‘ber months feel for you: cosy and uplifting, or heavier and reflective?

How do I want to feel by the end of this year?  Calm, energised, balanced?

Ready to Support Your Winter Wellness?

Whether you’re looking for reflexology, lymphatic drainage massage, Reiki, EFT or Mindset coaching, I would love to support you in creating calm, clarity, and balance through the winter months.

Book a free no obligation call here: 30 min Nurturing Session  for online sessions.

Or here: VitaliQi Holistic Health Clinic for in person sessions at VitaliQi, Barnstaple.

The Many Hats We Wear

The Many Hats We Wear: Finding Balance & Supporting Your Nervous System

In both business and life, it often feels like we are constantly swapping hats from CEO to therapist, cook to chauffeur, emotional anchor to admin assistant and all before lunch!

As women, especially those running a business while supporting a family, we become masters of multitasking. But behind the scenes of all this juggling, our nervous systems are quietly absorbing the overwhelm. And that can lead to burnout, emotional fatigue, anxiety, and physical tension if we don’t pause and replenish.

Let’s take a moment to honour all the roles you play and then explore tools to support your balance and wellbeing.

Hats We Wear in Business

  • CEO & Visionary – You’re leading your mission.

  • Finance Manager – Budgeting, planning, tracking.

  • Marketing Lead – Promoting, posting, and connecting.

  • Therapist or Practitioner – Holding space for others’ healing.

  • Customer Support – Responding with heart.

  • Admin & Tech – Organising, scheduling, troubleshooting.

  • Coach & Mentor – Guiding others through transformation.

  • Cleaner, Designer, Event Planner – Yep, you probably do this too!

 

Hats We Wear in Life

  • Mum – The glue that holds it together.

  • Wife/Partner – Holding space in a relationship.

  • Daughter – Caring, listening, supporting.

  • Friend – Encouraging and uplifting others.

  • Family Nurse – Looking after the health of those you love.

  • Household Manager – Food, cleaning, school runs, life admin.

  • Self-Care Advocate (in progress!) – Trying to fill your own cup.

It’s no wonder your body and mind might feel tired, stretched or stuck. You’re carrying a lot. But the good news? You don’t have to keep spinning all the plates alone and you can support your nervous system in gentle, nurturing ways.

Supporting Your Nervous System & Finding Balance

Here are some tools I recommend to help you regulate your nervous system, restore balance, and move from surviving to thriving:

  1. EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique)

A powerful way to calm the fight-or-flight response. Tapping on acupressure points while acknowledging how you feel helps release stress, anxiety and emotional overwhelm.  Try tapping daily or during moments of transition (like from work to family time).  I have recorded two short scripts for you one switching into me time https://youtu.be/ruNda6hoxmQ and one for family time https://youtu.be/wiqNqJmfMPw

2. Breathwork

Simple breath techniques can signal to the nervous system that you are safe. One I love:
Box Breathing – Inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4. Just a few minutes can calm a racing mind.

3. Grounding & Somatic Movement

Taking 5 minutes to stretch, sway or walk barefoot can bring you back into your body.
Let yourself move intuitively, no pressure, just presence.

4. Reiki or Energy Healing

Reiki helps shift emotional blockages, restore energy flow and brings deep relaxation.
It’s a reset button for your body and soul.

5. Journaling

Writing helps release thoughts, acknowledge feelings and bring clarity.
Prompt: “What hats have I worn today? Which ones felt heavy?”

6. Boundaries & Delegation

Not every hat needs to be yours. Practice saying NO, asking for help, and outsourcing where you can.   You are not a machine you are a human being with needs too.

7. Nervous System Nourishers

  • Warm baths or showers

  • Weighted blankets

  • Herbal teas (chamomile, lemon balm)

  • Digital detox time

Little things make a big difference when done consistently.

You are doing incredible things, not because you wear all the hats, but because you do so with love, courage and intention. But even the strongest among us need rest, replenishment and realignment.

Let this be your reminder you are allowed to take off some hats. You are allowed to pause. And you are absolutely worthy of the same care you give so freely to others.

If you are feeling stretched, I invite you to explore my Wellbeing & Mindset Coaching 1:1 sessions, EFT support, or book a Reiki session at VitaliQi in Barnstaple, or join one of my nurturing wellness retreats. Your nervous system, your heart and your future self will thank you.

With warmth and encouragement,
Samantha 💛
Helping you shift your energy, mindset & life.